Hi Girls!
I hope you enjoyed your weekend! I spent some time this weekend talking with my hubby about love, life and relationships. We realized that after being together for 8 years and married for 3,things are still pretty fresh! Yes we've definitely had our rough patches, but luckily for us, God kept his hand on us until we could finally get it together. But even after some hard times, we still flirt like crazy, hold hands, cuddle and make "goo-goo" eyes at each other whenever possible! Yes ladies, I am still blissfully in love with my man. Seasoned couples told us that the fire would die after 6 months of marriage! But fortunately for us, the 'experts' were oh so wrong! And since I'm all about "sharing the love", I thought I'd share some of my tips for keeping your relationship fresh with
your boo! ;)
1. Pray together. With all the vices set up to destroy a happy family these days, there's no way that I could make a list of suggestions without FIRST including this one. You HAVE to pray together! This one action can solidfy your marriage in ways that nothing else can. Rough patches WILL come and I believe firmly that prayer is what will help you ride the waves until that season in your relationship passes. Praying together will also help you both know each other's heart. Isn't that what we always say we want ladies? Don't we say we want to know what he's thinking and feeling? Well pray wth him and you'll know more than enough about your guy.
2. Plan a date night and keep it. Remember how you used to run home to shower and change for your date with your sweetie? If neccessary, you would use your lunch hour to pick up a cute bag or sexy dress to wear to impress him on that night. So why does that have to change now that you're married? If you wanna keep it sexy, then don't change ladies. Keep dating your man, keep buying sexy dresses and cute bags to impress him. Join him on a date to the theatre. Maybe go the amusement park, bowling alley or enjoy a nice candlelight dinner. Whatever you decide to do, plan to do it in advance and keep the date. I'm sure you know that anything that's not already planned just gets pushed back. So don't procrasitinate lovelies, go get your man, go get your planner and go enjoy an evening of fun and fabulousness together!
3. Compliment and respect him in private and in public. This suggestion may seem like it has nothing to do with preserving the sexy in the relationship, but it does. Trust me ladies, nothing turns a man on more than your admiration and your respect. We have to remember that our men interpret love differently. They don't need us to listen to them for hours and hours about the goings on of their day---but we do! What our men need from us is our admiration for the big and the little things. They'll never tell us, but it's true. Not only that, but they deeply desire for us to respect them, privately and publicly. Nothing will deflate your man worse than a biting, sarcastic comment. He may never tell you how bad you hurt him when you called him out about a private matter in front of his boys, but it did. So ladies, let's try another approach. Let's work to speak positively to our men and to treat them like the kings that we believe them to be. Trust me ladies, admiring and respecting your man will keep him close for many, many days to come.
4. Flirt, flirt, flirt! Listen ladies, we are natural flirts. From the tossing of our hair (weaves, ha!) over the shoulder to the sly, side smile---we know the subtle ways to make our men want us. Flirting is an incredible way to keep things fresh in your relationship as it creates anticipation for what is yet to come! So get creative girlies! Write some little love notes and throw them in his brief case before he leaves for the day. Call him on the phone while he's at work and share a fantasy that will become a reality when he gets home. Do you catch my meaning? Flirt with him---alot! You'll have him counting the seconds to when he can come home and cash in on all those hot and steamy "promises"! Mmmmm.
5. No more grandma panties. With so many incredible fall fashions, how can fashionistas such as ourselves NOT go shopping for the most classic and trendiest casual and office gear? It's a must right? So how can the same fabulous ladies go to bed in the ugliest and most raggedy pjs and night scarves?!! I know I'm guilty for it too, but recently vowed to my hubby to make a change, effective immediately! Ladies, our men are dying for us to come to bed smelling as sweet and looking as sexy as we do when we're off to meet our girls for Sunday brunch. So put aside some cash and go shopping to impress your guy---exclusively!
6. Become his playmate. Alright girls, it's time to loosen up! Our men want to play and their too macho to tell you. So I'm gonna tell you. Put that polish down, put on your sweats (some cute ones, of course) and go play! If your man is working hard, long hours and you're starved to spend time with him then don't be so picky how that time is spent. I've learned over the years that men tend to open up more when they're actually doing something. So if you're out playing ball with him, even if you suck, it's possible that you might learn something really incredible about him during that time. Whatever his hobbies are, pick one, or two, or three...and join him! I mean it's only fair. If he's going to go with you to the mall and spend his day testing the cushions of various chairs and couches while we waits for you to change into endless pairs of shoes and outfits, the least you can do is play with him! Right? You may not be the most athletic or adventurous, but I know for sure that he'll get a kick out of you joining him just for fun. Maybe you could even get creative and keep score with a reward system that both of you can enjoy! ow! Now that's sexy!
Ladies, I hope some of these suggestions help keep things sexy between you and your boo! I'm no 'expert', but I know these suggestions have worked for me. What have you been doing to preserve the sexy in your marriage? Don't be shy! Share them with us!!! A girl can never get too many ideas when it comes to making her man happy!
Later cuties!
Smooches!
...Hugs too!
Latasha
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY LADIES!
